The Enemy Strikes Again

March 28, 2008

However, in month of August 1997 our marriage came under another round of attack. My wife got involved again with another man. I forgave her. Though this was not something new to me, this time I was deeply hurt and grieving. Not for me but for what this meant to the Lord because my wife was already a believer. In January 1998 I learned that the affair was still going on. That time my wife already wanted a divorce. She moved out of the house and stayed in one of our apartments. My mind was in torment. The losses incurred in a failed business transaction added to my sorrows. Everything seemed to be in chaos.

One day my wife came to visit my daughter. I told her we should save our marriage and for this to happen, we needed to see a marriage counselor. She flatly rejected my suggestion. The next thing  she said hit me hard. “I would rather be elsewhere than be home because you are, through and through, a domineering person.” Having heard such remark, I thought our marriage was already beyond repair.

But there was still a flicker of hope. I heard about a marriage seminar to be held in March 1998 in Singapore. I told my wife about it but she still refused to go. I became very persistent which provoked my wife to shout back at me,”You always have your way! Through the years, I have lost my individuality!” It was such a sobering truth that I was taken aback at that moment. The Lord unveiled my eyes to the “bully” I had become in the eyes of my wife. I affirmed my love for my wife and explained that we were both victims of the situation. Sadly, my words did not stop her from leaving.